Family & Friends

How you can help when a family member or friends baby dies.

Respect the parents' right to express whatever they feel or think - regardless of how strange it may seem to you.

What You Can Do To Help

You are the greatest gift you can give grieving parents. Holding a hand, touching a shoulder, giving a hug says, “I’m here for you.” By letting parents talk about their pain, you can help them come to terms with it.

Don't say:

  • You're young, you can have others.

(Parents have to mourn for this baby before they can have another. One baby does not replace another.)

  • You have an angel in heaven.

(They don't want an angel in heaven. They want this baby.)

  • This happened for the best.

Do say:

  • I'm sorry.

  • What can I do for you right now?

  • I'm here. I want to listen.

  • This must be hard for you.